Lisbeth Salander

So, as you know, I’m an open person, I spill everything to anyone who’s listening. And I have a bit of a situation so I’ve told many people. I’ve gotten lots of support about it and I love everyone who replied to me. I didn’t expect such good advice. So, I’ve decided to share some of it here…

Hmm, I have the same problem.
Whenever it comes to making the “first” move, I just can’t do it.
EX: There was this girl I really liked at my college and she was single at the time and everyone knew I liked her but I just couldn’t make the move to talk to her, personally or say anything because I was just too nervous. After that, I deeply regretted it. I wish I could be with her right now because she is perfect in my eyes.
So back on topic, if you don’t make a move; I can guarantee there will be some regrets.
As for making a move, hugs, holding hands, cuddling, just being with each other, and the last move would be kissing. But don’t go into situations where you do NOT feel comfortable because you don’t have to do anything you don’t want too.
Take it at your own pace & I hope it works out for you (:

As for being bi, I am the same way. Coming out still hasn’t worked out for me, but in time; it will.

This was the only reply I had from another girl. I thought it was awesome because I could relate. Well, I suppose they were all relatable, but this one was different.

Just going to throw my 2 cents in here.

Emily, you ARE going to embarrass yourself. It a 100% fact that everyone, and yes I mean everyone (Even Chuck Norris did it), will embarrass themselves in front of their significant other. Most of the time it is something small like getting tongue tied or falling on your ass in front of them. I have done it, you will do it, everyone who has ever had a relationship has done it.

Now that I got that out of the way….

You will be fine. what you need to do is believe in yourself more than anything else. I have known you long enough to say this with no doubt in my mind. I know making the first move it hard and can even be terrifying, but the way you need to face it is by being you and to not rush into things you don’t feel comfortable doing or saying. If you try and act diffrently towards this then you are effectivly throwing away the “you” that she likes.

You can do this.

This was from Cody… I wasn’t expecting this from him. We haven’t really talked in a while. We’ve had lots of ups and downs. But, I’m glad he did give some advice, I liked it.

Hey Emily. Is it okay if I call you that? Let me know if I shouldn’t.

You’re only fifteen. It gives some intuition since young love is sort of a double-edged sword. On one end it’s amazing and the feelings you have can be absolutely incredible. On the other since they’re some of your first experiences with these kinds of emotions they lead to rash decisions and different thought processes.

You’re beautiful for your choices. I really mean it. I have many great friends who are bisexual and to be damn well honest - good on them. I smile when they tell me it makes them happy and gives them more options when it comes to a partner. I know it’s tough to just let out - especially in public - but one day I just want you to look in the mirror and be proud of who you are. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.

For your relation, I think it’s a good start by holding hands. Physical contact is more intimate than anything verbal can express or do. There should never be any rush to head into anything either of you aren’t ready for yet. I didn’t have sex until I was eighteen. I didn’t have a girlfriend until I was a junior in high school. I wasn’t ready for that kind of commitment having seen many of my friends’ relations rise and fall throughout the years. I didn’t want to make the same mistakes they did when they showed too much affection or rushed the relationship.

Be confident. Smile and hold her hand. And when she least expects it and you two are alone, feel your heart beating in your chest: take a leap of faith and give her a kiss. We avoid risks in life in order to make it safely to death. Every now and then you should do something extraordinary just to see how incredible you can have an impact on someone else’s day or life.

Take care Emily. I hope you could find something in my meager post. (-:

This was the best piece of advice I’ve ever received. It was awesome. I love whoever said this.

Just had a long, thoughtful skype chat with Emily. I truly do wish her the best in all thst she will go through and I’m sure she will succeed.

I have hope in you Emily… You are an amazing person with immense passion and courage to do something like this and that has made me respect you miles more as an individual.

The bond that you and Molly share are incredible and it is something that many couples or even married people do not possess yet I can see it already there with your first true relationship.

You should will succeed and this will be another era in your life that you will surpass and enjoy the downhill ride from here on out.

Oh and Don’t forget to enjoy the breeze…

Well, maybe this was the best one I’ve ever received. This is from another person I know much better. Now I have more respect for him.

I expect this first move to be made. But i don’t think you should feel pressured into it, that wasn’t very kind of Sydney to put that pressure on you. This will be the first time you have had a First time, i am correct in that? So don’t feel pressured and take your time on friday, don’t rush it. If it happens it happens, if it doesn’t happen, then you wont lose anything, you will still gain something. You will gain all this companionship time with Molly, which will be amazing in itself when it comes about.

So don’t rush it, take your time and enjoy the alone time you have with Molly on Friday, and dont make it awkward by having the pressure of the first move upon your shoulders. Take your time and enjoy it.

I have faith in you, don’t worry, you will make it happen and it will be amazing for you. :)

And this last one was from my friend Matthew. It’s also been a while since I’ve talked with him. So these long messages to me was a good surprise. I’m really glad all my somewhat older friends came up and helped me out.

I also want to thank Andrew. We’ve had countless Skype conversations about this. I couldn’t quote it all here. So thank you. <3